这世上有一种东西是百害而无一利的，那就是发脾气

　　这世上有一种东西是百害而无一利的，那就是发脾气。教育孩子也是如此。
　　There is one thing in the world that is harmful but not beneficial, that is to lose temper. The same is true of educating children.
　　教育界的专家指出：贫穷不会带来教育的失败，但精神的虐待一定会制造出一个问题儿童。
　　Experts in the education sector pointed out that poverty will not lead to education failure, but mental abuse will certainly create a problem child.
　　让孩子生活在精神的虐待中，就如同给他带上了终生痛苦的枷锁。很多家长把孩子的任性、不听话归咎在孩子身上，其实每一个问题儿童的背后，必有一个问题父母。
　　Letting a child live in spiritual abuse is like putting him in a chain of lifelong pain. Many parents blame their children for their willfulness and disobedience. In fact, behind every problem child, there must be a problem parent.
　　孩子的问题，几乎都是家长的问题，只是很多父母不愿意去看见自己的问题，总是想尽各种办法修理孩子。
　　Children＂s problems are almost all parents＂ problems, but many parents are not willing to see their own problems, and always try every means to repair their children.
　　再有灵性的孩子，如果遭受了精神虐待后，都会走向消极、悲观的世界，这是不可避免的。
　　It is inevitable that spiritual children who suffer from mental abuse will go into a negative and pessimistic world.
　　坏脾气会遗传，什么样的环境将造就出什么样的孩子。
　　Bad temper will be inherited, and what kind of environment will make what kind of children.
　　爱发脾气的父母，教育出的孩子更容易叛逆、多疑、敏感、内心脆弱又好斗。
　　Parents who are prone to temper tantrums tend to educate children who are more rebellious, suspicious, sensitive, vulnerable and aggressive.
　　当这样的孩子长大，为人父母时，也会继承父母的坏脾气。而他下一代幼小的孩子又成了坏脾气的牺牲品。
　　When such children grow up and become parents, they will also inherit their parents＂ bad temper. And his next generation of young children became the victim of bad temper.
　　正如蒙台梭利言：每一种性格缺陷都是由童年的不幸造成的。
　　As Montessori said, every kind of character defect is caused by the misfortune of childhood.
　　脾气不好，让孩子不敢亲近、不敢敞开心扉，没有安全感，成长中会有各种各样的问题。
　　Bad temper makes children afraid to get close and open their hearts. They have no sense of security. There will be various problems in their growth.
　　有很多这样的例子：父母脾气越大，孩子越顽劣；父母越气急败坏，孩子越难管；父母脾气升级，孩子的坏行为也跟着渐长。
　　There are many such examples: the more angry parents are, the more naughty children are; The more angry the parents are, the more difficult the children are to manage; When parents＂ temper escalates, children＂s bad behavior also grows.
　　大人应多给孩子耐心、宽容和信任空间，虽然看着孩子犯错而不马上纠正，很考验父母的承受力，但我们要相信孩子有自我纠错的能力。
　　Adults should give children more room for patience, tolerance and trust. Although it is a test of parents＂ endurance to watch children make mistakes without correcting them immediately, we should believe that children have the ability to correct themselves.
　　人的成长是一个不断自我反省、自我纠错的过程，我们应尊重孩子享受这个过程的权利。
　　Human growth is a process of continuous self-reflection and self-correction. We should respect children＂s right to enjoy this process.