建议的提出和采纳

　　＂建议＂的提出和采纳
　　对于＂建议＂一词，我们并不陌生，在生活中我们似乎处处都可以看到它，它对我们的生活产生了很大的影响。几乎可以说是影响了我们的每一个决定，最终影响了我们的人生。
　　We are no strangers to the word ＂suggestion＂. We seem to see it everywhere in our lives, and it has a great impact on our lives. It can almost be said that it affects every decision we make, and ultimately affects our lives.
　　但是并不是每个建议都需要采纳，也不是每个人我们都需要给出建议。当他人给自己提建议时，自己不能因为给自己提建议的人是谁来决定这个建议是否适合。当他人向自己询问建议时，自己不能全凭自己的喜好给他人提建议，而不考虑他人的真实状况，以及两人之间的关系。
　　But not every suggestion needs to be adopted, and not everyone needs to make suggestions. When others make suggestions to yourself, you cannot decide whether the suggestion is suitable based on the person who made the suggestion to yourself. When others ask for advice to yourself, you cannot give advice to others based solely on your own preferences, without considering the real situation of the other person and the relationship between the two.
　　当他人给我们提建议时，我们要考虑到自己对于这件事最初的观点与看法，如果是自己思考不周，或者是存在偏见，这时候他人的建议对我们做出准确的判断是很有帮助的，但是如果完成这件并不能给自己带来提升只是无谓的浪费自己的时间时，这时就要思考他人给你的建议是否符合你的性格，人生目标等。我们不应该因为担心伤了他人的面子，而勉强自己采纳他人的意见。虽然，不可否认很多给我们提建议的人是为了我们好，是为了让我们变得更轻松或者更优秀，但是还是会有一些建议完全偏离现实，若听取这些建议会给自己的生活带来较大的麻烦。小编的一位朋友就因为当年报考高考志愿时听取了亲戚的建议去学医，后面发现自己完全无法克服解剖等学科，导致整个大学生活过的无比痛苦。
　　When others give us suggestions, we must take into account our initial views and opinions on this matter. If we are not thinking well or have prejudice, then other people’s suggestions are very useful for us to make accurate judgments. It＂s helpful, but if completing this one doesn＂t bring you improvement, it＂s just a needless waste of your time. At this time, you have to think about whether the advice others give you is in line with your personality, life goals, etc. We should not force ourselves to adopt the opinions of others because we are worried about hurting others＂ face. Although it is undeniable that many people who give us suggestions are for our good, to make us easier or better, there are still some suggestions that completely deviate from reality. If you listen to these suggestions, they will bring better life to your own life. Big trouble. A friend of the editor of the editor listened to the advice of relatives to study medicine when he applied for the college entrance examination, and later found that he was completely unable to overcome disciplines such as anatomy, which caused the entire university life to be extremely painful.
　　当我们给他人提建议时，我们不能打着为他人着想，就把提建议变成了命令，我们只有向他人提建议的权利，这并不意味着我们的建议就一定会被采纳，我们要明白，每个人的人生都要他自己做主，我们并不能左右。同时我们还需要考虑向我们采取建议的人向我们询问的事对他的人生影响大不大，还有他和我们的关系紧密程度。对于一些决定人生方向的事，若两人关系并不是亲密无间的话，尽量以旁观者的角度分析这件事情，而不是来帮他做出判断的方向，因为我们无法承担改变他人命运的这种称号。
　　When we make suggestions to others, we can’t just think of others and turn the suggestion into an order. We only have the right to make suggestions to others. This does not mean that our suggestions will be adopted. We have to Understand that everyone＂s life has to be his own master, and we can＂t control it. At the same time, we also need to consider the matter that the person who is advising us asks us has little impact on his life, and how close he is to us. For some things that determine the direction of life, if the relationship between the two is not close, try to analyze the matter from the perspective of the bystander, instead of helping him make judgments, because we cannot afford to change the fate of others. title.
　　＂建议＂的提出多包含着提出者对接受者的担忧，祝福等情绪。每个提出者都肯定想让自己的建议被他人采取，但这并不意味着接受者必须接受建议。所以，要以平常心来看待＂建议＂。
　　The proposal of ＂suggestion＂ mostly contains the worry, blessings and other emotions of the proposer to the recipient. Every proposer definitely wants his suggestion to be adopted by others, but this does not mean that the recipient must accept the suggestion. Therefore, we must treat ＂recommendations＂ with peace of mind.
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