不要过度鼓励和批评

　　Don＂t over encourage and criticize
　　不要过度鼓励和批评
　　有一种说法，当别人失败或者要做某件事时，要积极地批评和鼓励他，但小编想说的是，鼓励和批评可以，但不要过度，不要过度鼓励和批评，更不要在鼓励和批评时长篇阔论，不要过度地去鼓励和批评，让事情自然而然地发生，有时过度的鼓励和批评并不是正确的选择。
　　There is a saying that when someone else fails or wants to do something, you must actively criticize and encourage him, but what I want to say is that encouragement and criticism are okay, but don’t overdo it, don’t over encourage and criticize, let alone encourage Do not overly encourage and criticize. Let things happen naturally. Sometimes excessive encouragement and criticism are not the right choice.
　　# 顺其自然  #
　　千万不要在一旁高谈阔论，可以适当的鼓励和批评，但要分人，有些人的荣誉感天生要强，失败的经历已经在脑海里刻下了，这时就不需要人在旁边再发表鼓励和批评言论，就顺其自然地让他自然地消化这次失败的经历和去做事的决心，过度的鼓励和批评言论反而会适得其反，会让当事人产生挫败感，反而会畏惧，对于那些信心不足的人，鼓励也不要过度，因为自信都应该是自己给的，是自己的实力的产物，而过度的鼓励则会让人错误地高估自己的实力和事情的难度，如果失败，最坏的情况可能是当事人产生一种不服感、一种＂不是我实力不够是我运气不好＂感，这也是对于当事人是有害的，其实人对于自身的定位都比较清楚，自己的实力能到达哪种地步，能走到哪种高度，是什么样的人才都有一个大概的判断，很多事不需要其他人过度的干涉，一个人慢慢地走过反而是最好的。
　　不要过度地批评和鼓励，关键要看当事人自己，如果他想做成某件事，他自然会为自己的目标努力而不是空口说大话，当失败时不要又一股脑地去批评，一会儿热一会儿冷，谁也受不了，就顺其自然，适当地表达自己的关心就好。
　　Don’t talk loudly on the sidelines. You can encourage and criticize appropriately, but you need to pide people. Some people have a strong sense of honor, and the experience of failure has been carved in their minds. At this time, there is no need for people to express encouragement and criticism. Speech, let him digest the failure experience and the determination to do things naturally. Excessive encouragement and criticism will be counterproductive and will make the person feel frustrated. On the contrary, he will be afraid of those who lack confidence. Don’t over-encourage, because self-confidence should be given by yourself and is the product of your own strength. Excessive encouragement will make people mistakenly overestimate your own strength and the difficulty of things. If you fail, the worst may happen. It is the person who feels dissatisfied, a feeling of ＂It＂s not that I am not strong enough that I have bad luck.＂ This is also harmful to the person involved. In fact, people are relatively clear about their own positioning, and what kind of strength can their own strength reach. There is a general judgment about what kind of height can be reached and what kind of talents they are. Many things do not require excessive interference by others. It is best for a person to walk slowly.
　　Don’t criticize and encourage excessively. The key lies in the person’s own self. If he wants to accomplish something, he will naturally work hard for his goal instead of talking big. When he fails, don’t criticize again. If no one can stand it, just let the flow go and express your concerns appropriately.
　　# 个人的觉悟  #
　　很多事都需要自己一个人去经历，有些人的成长不去打扰就好，失败的滋味和成功的喜悦都需要他自己去品味，不要担心花朵的夭折和绽放，如果是鲜花的种子，那么他本身就有着一个开花的渴望，一朵花的绽放也绝不会因为一阵风和雨的挫折而放弃开花，也绝不会因为一两天的阳光而觉得自己的理想简单，就算在开花的途中失败，这样的经历也绝算不上令人悲伤，只能说种子的根没有深入地下，对于阳光的渴望没有那么大，有点令人可惜，没有开出自己的花。
　　Many things need to be experienced by yourself. Some people’s growth is not disturbed. The taste of failure and the joy of success need to be tasted by themselves. Don’t worry about the death and blooming of flowers. If it is the seeds of flowers, then he I have a desire to bloom. The blooming of a flower will never give up blooming because of a gust of wind and rain, and I will never feel that my ideal is simple because of a day or two of sunshine, even if it fails on the way to bloom. This kind of experience is by no means sad. It can only be said that the root of the seed did not go deep into the ground, and the desire for the sun was not so great. It was a pity that he did not bloom his own flowers.
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