七夕节？恋爱？

　　恋爱的动机来源于相互吸引，无论是从外貌、气质或者性格，对方身上的闪光点让你产生对对方的好感与爱慕之情，著名的断桥效应表明恋爱是一种感觉，由于体内各种激素的分泌而导致的感觉。于是，一段恋爱的开始是从喜欢开始的，这也是爱情三要素里的＂亲密＂，你会觉得在对方身上你有说不完的话，像对自己的朋友一样，于是很多人认为许多恋爱是由友谊升华而成的。喜欢会衍生出＂表白＂，如果表白成功，那么恋爱关系正式成立，若表白失败，则恋爱关系不成立。当你与对方确立恋爱关系之后，会产生一系列亲密行为，牵手、拥抱、接吻乃至性爱，这构成爱情里的＂激情＂，当一个人喜欢另一个人，除去心灵的沟通交流欲望之外，还包括身体生理上的欲望，这与喜欢、恋爱建立在性成熟上息息相关。在恋爱中，除去感受恋爱的甜蜜，我们也需要注意一些细节与问题。
　　1.恋爱具有唯一性。当拥有恋爱对象之后，我们需要注意保持与其他异性朋友的距离，这并不是指要拒绝与异性的一切社交，相反，异性相处是伴随我们一生的活动。
　　2.注意场合，这要求恋爱情侣公共场所不过分亲密，为他人留有空间。
　　3.协调恋爱、学习与生活的关系。世界的大小对于每个人都不一样，恋爱是很重要的一部分，但它不是全部，除去享受恋爱的甜蜜，更要注意自我提升。
　　4.保护好自己。性爱是美好的，但意外怀孕与流产却是残忍与血腥的，它会给人以身体与心灵上的摧残，也会影响到学习、生活。
　　5.预防性侵。恋爱中的情侣一定要区分以爱之名的性侵与爱。
　　一般而言，恋爱存在两种结果，失恋与婚姻。《小王子》里狐狸说到，被驯服是有风险的，流泪的风险。当一段恋爱因各种原因不能继续下去时，就会面临关系的结束，当事人将面临失恋。失恋时，伤心与难过是不可避免的事情，但我们要客观看待失恋，多寻找一些有意义的事情来充实自己的生活，如学习英语、坚持体育训练等，切勿沉溺在失恋的情绪中，学会放手也是当面临恋爱终结时的一门必修课题。
　　The motivation of love comes from mutual attraction, whether it is from appearance, temperament or character, the shining points on the other side make you feel good and affection for the other side. The famous broken bridge effect shows that love is a kind of feeling. The sensation caused by the secretion of hormones. Therefore, the beginning of a relationship starts with liking. This is also the ＂intimacy＂ in the three elements of love. You will feel that you have something to say to the other person, just like to your own friends, so many people think that many relationships are From the sublimation of friendship. Like will derive ＂confession＂. If the confession is successful, then the relationship is officially established; if the confession fails, the relationship is not established. After you establish a romantic relationship with the other person, you will have a series of intimate behaviors, holding hands, hugging, kissing and even sex, which constitute the ＂passion＂ in love. When one person likes another person, apart from the desire to communicate with the soul, It also includes physical desires, which are closely related to love and love based on sexual maturity. In love, apart from feeling the sweetness of love, we also need to pay attention to some details and problems.
　　1. Love is unique. When we have a romantic partner, we need to pay attention to maintaining a distance with other friends of the opposite sex. This does not mean rejecting all social interactions with the opposite sex. On the contrary, getting along with the opposite sex is an activity that accompanies us throughout our lives.
　　2. Pay attention to the occasion. This requires that the love couple is not overly intimate in public places, leaving space for others.
　　3. Coordinate the relationship between love, study and life. The size of the world is different for everyone. Love is a very important part, but it is not all. Apart from enjoying the sweetness of love, more attention must be paid to self-improvement.
　　4. Protect yourself. Sex is beautiful, but accidental pregnancy and miscarriage are cruel and bloody. It will destroy people＂s body and soul, and will also affect study and life.
　　5. Prevent sexual assault. Couples in love must distinguish between sexual assault and love in the name of love.
　　Generally speaking, there are two kinds of results in love, loss of love and marriage. In ＂The Little Prince＂, the fox said that being tamed is risky and the risk of tears. When a relationship cannot continue due to various reasons, it will face the end of the relationship, and the person will face a loss of love. Sadness and sorrow are inevitable when we lose our relationship, but we must look at our loss of love objectively and look for more meaningful things to enrich our lives, such as learning English, insisting on physical training, etc., and don’t indulge in the emotions of being broken up. Learning to let go is also a compulsory subject when facing the end of love.
　　——源自Google翻译
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