读被讨厌的勇气

　　读《被讨厌的勇气》
　　Read ＂The Courage to Be Hated＂
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　　句子摘抄：
　　Sentence excerpt:
　　如果不想和那个人搞好关系的话，也可以用手中的剪刀彻底剪断关系，因为剪断关系是你自己的课题。
　　自我接纳是指假如做不到就诚实地接受这个做不到的自己，然后尽量朝着能够做到的方向去努力，不对自己撒谎。
　　想缔结良好的人际关系，需要保持一定距离，太过亲密就无法正面对话。但是，距离也不能太远，课题分离不是为了疏远他人，而是为了解开错综复杂的人际关系之线。
　　如果想要行使自由，就需要付出代价。在人际关系中，自由的代价就是被别人讨厌。
　　首先要思考这是谁的课题，自己的还是别人的，冷静地划清界限。不去干涉别人的课题，也不让别人干涉自己的课题，这就可能彻底改变人际关系的烦恼。
　　别人如何看自己，无论是喜欢还是讨厌，那都是对方的课题而不是自己的课题。
　　只要摄入人际关系就会或多或少地受伤，也会伤害别人。
　　If you don＂t want to have a good relationship with that person, you can also cut the relationship completely with the scissors in your hand, because cutting the relationship is your own issue.
　　Self-acceptance means that if you can＂t do it, you can honestly accept yourself that you can＂t do, and then try your best to work in the direction that you can do, and don＂t lie to yourself.
　　If you want to establish a good relationship, you need to keep a certain distance. If you are too close, you cannot have a positive conversation. However, the distance should not be too far, the separation of subjects is not to alienate others, but to understand the intricate lines of interpersonal relationships.
　　If you want to exercise freedom, you have to pay a price. In interpersonal relationships, the price of freedom is being hated by others.
　　First of all, we must think about whose subject this is, my own or someone else＂s, and draw a clear line calmly. Don＂t interfere with other people＂s issues, and don＂t let others interfere with your own issues, which may completely change the troubles of interpersonal relationships.
　　How other people think of themselves, whether they like it or hate it, is the other person＂s issue, not one＂s own.
　　As long as the ingestion of interpersonal relationships will hurt more or less, it will also hurt others.
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　　读《被讨厌的勇气》感悟
　　Impressions on Reading ＂The Courage to Be Disgusted＂
　　以前的自己对别人的情绪很敏感，当别人一旦有情绪上的波动时，就会在想是不是自己做了什么不对的地方。但是，渐渐地发现，无论是被别人喜欢或者讨厌，不过是别人的课题罢了，我们需要做的是做好自己的课题——怎么面对被人讨厌。长大了，就会明白，面对别人的讨厌是多么正常事情，更多的我们需要去学习怎么直面被别人讨厌而理智冷静地面对！
　　In the past, I was very sensitive to other people＂s emotions. When others experienced emotional fluctuations, they would wonder if they did something wrong. However, I gradually discovered that whether it is being liked or hated by others, it is nothing more than someone else＂s subject. What we need to do is to do our own subject-how to face being hated by others. When you grow up, you will understand how normal it is to face the hatred of others, and more we need to learn how to face being hated by others and face it sensibly and calmly!
　　参考资料：知乎，百度，谷歌翻译
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